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Episode 43 · 1 year ago

#43 Gene DiNapoli - Entertainer & Tribute Artist BrianVee Whywework

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Gene DiNapoli is an entertainer. Not only is Mr. DiNapoli a tribute artist to Elvis Presley, with a comfortable vocal range to cover such artists as the Blues Brothers, Neil Diamond, Frank Sinatra, and eras such as rock and disco, but Gene is also an actor, podcaster, host of up and coming shows and the president and CEO of Lightning Entertainment. He joins @WhyWeWork today and brings us great wisdom based on how experience with work.     

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...welcome to why we work with your host Brian V. As he speaks to people like you from all over the world as we together dive deeper into our motivations, struggles, joys, seemingly missteps, hopes, warnings and advice which would be an encouragement to us all to get up. Get going on, keep on working. Working is tough, but working is good. Now here is your host to why we wait. I'm Brian B. And this is why we work. They have the great pleasure speaking with Mr Jean Denapoli, who is a tribute artist toe Elvis Presley. You know, I saw this man and I wondered, How could you do this? How could you give 40 years of your life paying tribute to someone who has passed? If you don't know Elvis, he was a great but Jean has taken it upon himself to carry on the work that Elvis has done. I want to find out what his motivation is. How he has kept a company lightning entertainment for 40 years doing what he loves to dio. So join me in this conversation with Jean Denapoli. I'm Brian V and this is why we work today. I have the great pleasure Speaking with Jean DiNapoli. Good day. Fine, sir. Hello. Good evening, Brian. How are you? I'm doing really well. I'm so glad that you would do this with me and for me. I I stumbled across you and some of your work, and I'm like, I sat back and I laughed. Was like, This guy is working. That was my first thought. And I thought, I need to figure out who this is. And all I saw was your work. And I didn't see you behind the camera. I didn't see you doing some of your interviews at that point. I just saw you working as in what you do. But then I started to research. You're really interesting person. So if you were doing the pleasure of of just introducing yourself, we're talking a little bit about what it is you do, and then we'll travel down memory lane. Sure. Well, uh, my name is Jean DiNapoli. I'm a 54 year old Italian boy from the Bronx, New York, And this past may I just celebrated my 40th year in show business. I was a state for over 30 years, 35 years, and then I broke into the acting game, and we've been doing that for the past couple of years, mixing it up. And I want to thank you for thinking of me for this wonderful podcast. Well, your your I don't know if you're the hardest working man in show biz, but you're you're working pretty hard, and I truly appreciate it. Jean. When when did it all begin? Take us back to your very first job, Maybe. I mean, I I talked to a few Americans, me being Canadian, and the average age is about 14 15 16 of getting a job. Did you have something similar or what is it that got you out of the house to go make some money? Well, it started earlier than that for me. Um, my parents off course gave me an allowance, but it was never enough to buy ice cream and records. And so I decided at, like, eight years old, I was going to make my own money. So the first thing I did was I sold candy door to door on. The funny part about it is when I look back now off some of the places I went to I could have gotten kidnapped a T eight years old because I worked for this company and they would drop you off in an apartment building and you'd go door to door Florida floor and, you know, but back in 1972 and three, uh, we didn't think about stuff like that. And then when that panned out, I started to deliver newspapers in my area, and I went to work in a butcher store, cleaning the butcher blocks of all the blood and guts of all the animals. I worked in a bakery, sweeping the seeds up off the floor, all the while practicing singing Elvis Presley in my bedroom since I was about six. So I'm six. Yeah, I became an Elvis fan and five years old, and I guess I knew it. Five or six. I wanted to be an entertainer. So for many years I was in...

...my bedroom upstairs on I would practice in front of a mirror with a room around my neck, and I would imitate Elvis. Uh, and that went on for about six years until I first walked on stage at 14 years old, and then my stepfather looked at my mother and said, That's what he's doing upstairs. For the past couple years, he's been pregnancy, so I've always worked. Was there. So you mentioned your stepfather, Your mom? Were they these jobs that you had, Whether in the butcher shop or delivering candy stuff? Were they pushing you to get out? Or is it just you wanting something for yourself that you couldn't afford? Uh, well, uh, my mother, of course, said it was great toe. Have drive and to work for what you want. Uh, my stepfather came into my life when I was, like, 12 or 13. So between my mother and my father, I realized that if you want things in life, you have to make it happen for yourself. And, you know, my mother, uh, she was a working mom on the weekend. She worked in a restaurant is a co check girl on the hostess. My dad was a gambler. Eso There were sometimes lean weeks and sometimes good weeks. But my father used to give me, uh, $10 a week, uh, $5 when I started working. Uh, but it would cost me money to take a cab to go to the record store. And back then records were like a dollar 50 or a dollar 98 I wouldn't go for one. I'd go for four and five so and comic books to comics. I was a big comic collector. So, you know, in order to have hobbies, you had a work. You know, your parents gave you on the food, the clothing and the roof over your head if you want, um, or the night you had to go to work. So I started early. I like money, and it continued. So along the way, you're so obviously at 14 year on stage, what were you thinking in terms of your your future, even at that age of maybe school or not school? Or how did you see your path being tracked out for you? Well, unfortunately, I thought I was gonna be a star. And I thought of doing my Elvis act. I was gonna make me a star. But at that time, I didn't realize there was already know was present. So what I should have done was I should have stayed in school, went to college. I picked up the trade. Uh, but I continued singing. And although I never became a star, I've had a very good life. And I met beautiful people. I met my beautiful wife because of entertaining, So I have no regrets, Uh, in that sense of the word but 54 years old now I realized I should have got a pension, you know? So now I'm playing catch up at a later age, but I'm still young at heart. And, you know, we all have different paths. Uh, everybody's job is essential at some point in life for us, it wouldn't be a job. Uh, so I took that path. Uh, I don't regret it. I just wish I could have added to it. I was I was just listening to you a moment ago. You're singing my way. Yeah, I've had some regrets. Thio, Um when did you start your business, then? So from 14 on the stage, When did you start Lightning entertainment? I think it was the next year when I was 15. Yeah, when I was 15. Uh, I happen thio right the back room of a restaurant, and I said to the guy Okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna do a show and I'm gonna buy the meals from you. How much do you want? He says I want I want $12 a dish. So I went in charge $25 and I sold tickets. So the first show I did the small restaurant. We had 100 people, so I made, like, $1200 at 15 years old. 15. And I said, Okay, this is good. This is good. So I learned what is called for walling, which is where you go and produce your own shows. Because as a singer, I was making 30 to $50 a show.

So if I could do my own shows, I realized that's where the money waas. So what did it look like for you leading up to around now of you know what a typical year. But what did it look like for you to stay active? Stay busy. How was it getting the gigs? How How difficult was that being? You're from New York. So did you stay in the area or did you even venture out a little bit further? Well, we ventured out further or we did gigs in Virginia and, uh, d c and North and South Carolina. We have one. Is faras West Virginia once, uh, and it worked out because I was a novelty. I was a young kid doing an Elvis Odd. So it was It was kind of cute. Uh, and I was lucky. My voice matured at a young age, so I was able to sing, uh, and sound older. Uh huh. And I did it for a while. Off course. I was still in school, so I did it on the weekends on back then in the 80 81 82 83 There was a lot of nightclubs, a lot of restaurants. So the work was there, Uh, it was there, but I always had a job during the week or Christmas tree. I sold Christmas trees on your in Christmas. I sold fireworks for Fourth of July. I was always an entrepreneur. Hmm. And it worked out, Uh, thank God more times than not, but there was some bad investments. There was some lean times. Uh, so that was good and bad, but I kept going, and then I found my niche. My niche was promoting and producing shows eso I did that a couple of times. A year, and I made a good dollar. And then, uh, when the Internet opened up, it really exploded because people in Jersey and Connecticut, Pennsylvania could see what I did, and then I would go work there. What did when you met your wife? What did she think of your aspirations on and then? I mean, I have a dear wife and I have aspirations, and, uh, they don't know it was lineup. Okay, So, uh, when I met my wife, I was in a depression because I just lost my father. So I had grown a beard and I gained a ton of weight and my hair was long and my niece was born Thanksgiving week on the night before Thanksgiving. I told my mother I was gonna be a career bachelor because I went dateless for 18 months, and I just had a lot of things going on. And my mother said, What's that as well I'm gonna go out with older women for money, and my mother goes, Oh, you're an ass. Well, at the same time, my wife was telling her mother that she was going to be a career woman. So the night after Thanksgiving, I went out with my brother for a drink to celebrate. My niece is being born, and my wife walked into a bar where I owned the karaoke deejay company. So I had people working for me. I had five or six people working for me. So I was making 1,502,000 week sitting home because I was still depressed about losing my dad. And when my wife walked in, she went to her girlfriend, who knew me. And she said, Who's that guy up there? And she was so that she DiNapoli, he's a local entertainer. So my wife already knew about me. Eso my wife. I spoke to my this girl at the bar, and she was standing at a part of the bar where she had to move in order for the guys to get to the bathroom. So she's I said, Excuse me, I'd like to you by She said, Well, you got to give me $5. I said five hours for what she goes. Well, I'm not moving again as well. I'm not gonna give you $5. I'm gonna go to the bathroom. I'm gonna buy you a drink. When I come out So I come out now. She knew. I say I didn't know she knew. So she goes, Do you sing? I said, no, I don't because I didn't want to sing. I was still very depressed, right. She goes too bad Because if you if you sang me a song, I go out to dinner with you So I walk up to the girl that worked for me. My wife picked me up E girl that worked for me. And I said, uh, put...

...it in this song that I've been trying to work on And I sang Ah, September Morn by Neil Diamond. So my wife walks up to me and she had this Is it really? Really So my wife hands me your phone number and says, How did you know? How do I know what? Because I was born in September? That's really so my wife and I met on a Friday and we dated every day, and I propose the following Saturday. I proposed eight days after meeting my wife Nice. And we got married 50 weeks later. So when I walk down the aisle, I didn't know my wife a year yet. But you know, when you're 30 years old and she was 27 you go to dinner and you talk and you realize you both have the same likes, the same dislikes You don't need to date for five years now. I asked my wife to marry May, and my wife is an educated girl. She's in finance, She's she's a she's a businesswoman. And my my life was my career was going like this. I said. So listen, I said, I don't think we should get married, because why not? I said, My life's a roller coaster. Sometimes I made 3000 week. Sometimes I make 300 eyes. I'm an entertainer. I'm never going to get a real job again. My wife looks to me and she goes, I like roller coasters. So I said, Yeah, I said, If you don't like roller coasters, don't get on this ride. And this November, we celebrate 23 years off wedded bliss. Congratulations. That's that's a great way. Never had a fight that I won, Uh, my wife. Your whole story was gonna be washed to me if you said it. We never had a fight like Oh, no, what I want, what I want. But you know my wife, like my mother and my parents, my father, my stuff. My wife is behind me. And no matter what I do, 150%. And that's the key to success in my book. Because I bought pizzerias, I bought bars, I bought laundromats. And some have worked out some having. So when I go to my wife with an idea, she goes, Look, I don't think you should, but if it makes you happy, go go forward with it. And sometimes I do. And sometimes they work on. Sometimes I sleep on, I go. All right, You know what? I'm not going to do that because no good could come out of it. Um, what you're doing. And I just realized with you saying with these other ideas that you have your working right like you're doing your entertainment. But you're also working with these ideas of just, you know, whether that's keeping the roof over the head or at least attempting or pitching in and helping out. But you're working too, so you have to Yeah, frames of mind going at the same time. Absolutely. Uh, I wish I could make a lot of money And what I do What I love to dio is that detaining. But I'm not at that point yet. I mean, years ago. Yes, it was great. I was a single guy. Then I got married. But as you get older, you say Okay, I want to stop working at 70 65 eso now. I'm working harder to make that money so I can retire and live a comfortable life. I like money. I like. I like going out. I like buying nice things. I like to pick up a check for friends. I e you know, when there's family around me I don't like them to pay, I'd rather pay. It makes me happy on. And you can't do that if you don't work. I didn't who I know yet. Not independently wealthy. So you know, you you hit it on the head. I might not be the hardest working man, but I am the most steady in my area because I create my own work. You know I don't have a pension. I don't have a retirement. Other people do entertainment and they have day jobs or they have pensions. I know my money in my pocket is gonna come from gigs and singing. And I think so. I continue to do it, um, while looking for other avenues to make money or whether tickets it's very important what you're saying, especially for my listeners of understanding. And I think we both could agree that when we were younger or younger. People today are not always...

...thinking you. You need something to keep going right. However much the scale is of how much you like to buy nice things, you need things, you need some income. And when I was younger, I don't think I appreciated that enough. Probably having, you know, family to help with a roof and paying rent or food is always there, and we take it for granted a little bit. But as we get older and more responsibilities fall on our own plate, then we're realizing that, you know, if I don't get up today and do something that is gonna affect other people in my life, and that's not what I want to dio. So it's I think what you're saying is is good to speak to people that air younger or even people who like you and I like I've had bouts of depression in my life. You if someone came up to you and said, Jean, you gotta go to work back off. Yeah, but if you think about is a rational person, you do need something you need a trade and education or luck. And the venue I took takes a lot of luck. Uh, which is why I doll Vinto other things in my life. But, you know, I remember I was about 15 or 16. I was going to the movies with a girl, and I was in between paychecks. And I said to my father, Guy, can I borrow $20? Because I'm in the middle of paychecks and my father said, uh, learned out of budget. I don't pay for hobbies. And and I looked at him and I said, Dating is a hobby. He goes, Yeah, he said, food, clothing, con Edison, and rent our necessities heads cars, going out and enjoying yourself or hobbies. So make up your mind what you wanna dio and the same way I say everybody has a choice. Well ah, person that has a regular job and only makes 40,000 year cannot afford a $750 bottle of wine at dinner. They can't afford a $5 or $20 bottle of wine, right? So according to your tastes and how you wanna live your life is the career you need thio the education you need, which leads to a job that will suffice your style of living. So you have to really you have to think about what you want 20 years down the line. Do you want to drive a tow? And I'm not saying anything is wrong with Toyota. Do you want to drive a Toyota or Hyundai or a Mercedes? Do you want to go to Florida on vacation? Or Italy and Greece and Spain? Do you wanna wear T shirts every day? Or Robert Graham? You know, $99 dress shirts. So and this all happens with your upbringing as well, because your parents have to say, Listen, you know, it's nice that you're working, you know, supermarket bagging groceries. But if you wanna have a better car, maybe you should learn how to be a manager of a grocery store instead of a beggar. You got to go to school you got. And so it's your parents job toe. Educate you that way. But it's your perseverance on what you want that's gonna keep you on that path. Now. I myself would love to drive a Maserati or a Mercedes, but my lifestyle and my income doesn't warrant it. So you get the best car you can for your money and you keep it in good shape and you live your life where I live. Here in South Korea E C. A lot of Maserati's BMW, but I don't think people are living within their means. So Mr Repo Man might be coming for a lot of people. But it Z you're right having people in your family, maybe directly or indirectly, friends giving you that advice, or even people like yourself, where people can hear this and just try to glean something from what other people who have traveled down this path know, whether through good experience or bad experience, whether we knew it when we first started or we're looking back 10 20 years and saying, you know it's not a regret, but if I would have done this, then at least I would have been, You know, it was you know that we don't know what the future holds. But if you do have a bad experience, the only thing you should do is learn from a you know, if you learn from something, it wasn't a bad experience. It wasn't experience. You know, I've lost money in my life and I would not sleep. And...

...my wife would put her arm around me and say we could make more money. It's on Lee. Money were healthy. We have loving family friends so you could always make money. And then you pay your debts and you pay people, you all businesses and you get out of it. And then you move on. But you. If you don't learn from your experiences, then you're the only fool. You're the only fool. I have been foolish many a times, Jean. What? What is your repertoire that you're able to do is some. You know what you generally do? I know you are a tribute artist to Elvis, but also I know that you have some things that you're also comfortable singing and doing. What are some of those before we get into maybe what you're doing nowadays. Well, you know what, Brian? Let me let me preface it with this because people are going to see this and hopefully, my friends and family. I'm not a singer, I'm an entertainer. And, um, I don't I'm not a trained singer, but what might what? My forte on what my gift is is like a put over a song, uh, which some people consider a better talent than being a singer. Of course, doing Elvis for 40 years, I get a lot of pleasure from doing my Elvis shout. But ever since I started singing my variety show which changes everything show because I looked at the audience and I say, Okay, there, 60 years old, they're gonna like this. They're 80 years old. They're gonna like this. I like the variety because I'm not pigeon toed in tow on Lee doing certain songs. Uh, I'd start off for the Sinatra song, and I look and I go, Okay. There are only about 60 years old. They're gonna like this go and eighties music, and I go into that. Um, they're 80 years old. They like doing I'm gonna stick with that so to me, I could do five shows in a week, and they're all different. So that's what's exciting to me about my career. Now, where when I did only Elvis, Yeah, I changed the songs around, but there was. It's all Elvis, you know. And although Elvis had a very big catalog, if you don't do heartbreak Hotel Love Me Tender. How if you don't do certain songs in the show? Oh, you could cause a riot you because bedlam in those certain so shows there's certain songs in the show make up a whole show. If you're jumping off a little bit, you're throwing one overboard. What I do in my show, we do a 90 minute show in the restaurants. I do about 30 songs. What I do is I do 15 that you have to dio Oh my Lord, you got to do the 15 20 Then I do five or six that I want to do to make my show pleasure. Or may on. Then I always ask the audience what they want to hear. So my show changes every show because there's different customers. I know guys that know 25 songs and they do the same songs. All they do is change the order. Where? My show? Because I'm an Elvis fanatic. If somebody says, Oh, do this gospel song that he I do the gospel song And I might not do it better than anybody else But it is my show for like, a better word Originality instead of just the same 20 songs over and over gives it life. It gives it life and people I have a guy that comes to see my show strictly to see what Alfred I'm gonna wear. Can you imagine that I saw you have many replica outfits of Elvis. Yeah, I have about 35 between the jumpsuits and the casual suits that he wore on stage, I could intertwine colors and but this guy, every time he comes to see me, he looks at his wife. He goes, that's different, you know? So that's a pleasurable thing to know that I don't have just three outfits Where the state, Three old fourth outfits. It's a personal gratification to me when I wear something different and somebody appreciates it in terms of lyrics. Are these I mean many of the movie memorized, but even things that we know on a regular basis. We stumble upon and kind of forget. Do...

...you have those readily available? Especially if someone's, you know, yelling out a song from the audience when it comes to Elvis? Uh, I think I know 99% off the lyrics the way they were done. Now, if I forget something you will never know, because I will do the mist ake like It's like it's the real thing. But what I do my variety show and somebody says, Can you do Neil Diamond's I Am I said, or Can you do Billy Joel? Zale's My Life for honesty. I'll do it for you. But I gotta look up the lyrics because there's so many thousands of songs. There's no way if you take a request, you're guaranteed to know it. And I don't like to disappoint anybody. So I said, Okay, what do you like? Okay, I'm going to read it off the the iPad, but I'm going to do it with such emotion or such conviction that you're gonna think I know this all so you'll do a song. Cold. Never even heard it before. No, I've heard it. Never sung it like somebody asked me to do. I, uh Alleged Zeppelin Song. Not that Led Zeppelin's In My Key or Let's Take Billy Joel. Billy Joel has 20 albums. There might be a storm on an album I've never heard because it's not a big hit. And I'll say, Well, why? Well, that was our wedding. Okay, I'm gonna try it. I'll listen during the break, I'll listen to Billie Joe's version to get the melody. I'll type in the song and I'll say, Okay, let's roll the dice. What's the worst that could happen? I never do it again, so we try. I'm sure you get this question a lot, but what is your favorite? What is your favorite song of Elvis versus what is your favorite song to sing? Okay with Elvis, I have two favorite songs. One is my way, because if you look at the lyrics of my way, it was more tailored for Elvis Presley and Frank Sinatra. Because always, Presley started a new kind of music. He makes rhythm and blues and country and gospel and rock and roll. In 1955 was young, so nobody knew how it was gonna be accepted. Sinatra did standards, which was already a form of music. So in terms of doing something original, excuse me and rolling the dice, I feel that my way was Mawr. I proposed for Elvis and the original rock and rollers of the fifties because they didn't know how rock and roll was gonna be perceived. As for a fast song, I love burning love because it showed that 37 years old when Elvis was considered, ah, has been he had a number to record in the country are in the middle of the Rolling Stones Kiss Led Zeppelin. And here comes Elvis Ah, 37 year old rock and roller with sideburns and he goes to number two, which showed he could still rock, which was great for his career. As for the variety show, I always do the first song I ever sang at 14 which was not an Elvis song. It was a song by Engelbert Humperdinck called After the Loving. So I make a joke out of it that this was the first song I sang and what did I know about after the love it as a four e no, nothing. So I always do that. But one song that I love to do because it's so recognizable and it's it's from my hometown. A guy from actually two guys I love doing Bobby Darin Splish Splash because Bobby came from my an area and I love doing runaround Sue by Dion Because as soon as you sing that opening line, here's my story. It's Everybody goes crazy, you know, so they automatically start to dance. But depending on my mood, I have so many, uh, but, you know, recently I've been ending my shows With America by Neil Diamond. Uh, and I purchase it my saying, with all the unrest and all the problems in America, no matter what your nationality, religion, color, creed, we're still Americans and we're still human beings. So we should treat each other with kindness. And I always end with that...

...recently, and I believe you're judged off there on how you treat people down here. So on Lee for a few minutes, if I could make 100 people get along to sing that song, then I've done my job. I want to get into what you're doing now, just like a typical week now. But as you speak and speak about Elvis, are you? If you would for me think about you from 14 to say 30 40. And now your career And you're saying Elvis developed into, you know, he was still able to get a number two album out there, even in the midst of being a little older. Are you seeing that? Your career? Because I heard you an interview. Talking about your voice is getting stronger. You're feeling pretty good. Better than you felt for a while. Are you able to see that you're maturing mawr into this role when you pay tribute to him or were you know, did you enjoy it when you were younger and maybe able to dance around a lot more easily? Uh, well, as a 54 year old person, it definitely takes a toll on me because I put so much into my show. Um, I backed out of doing all Elvis for a couple of reasons. Number one. Uh, the work started to get less and less because so many guys by jumpsuits and go out for $200 because they live in home with their parents or they have, ah, job during the week. So where I was charging $800 for a show because it's my living and I have two days a week to make my money. Friday and Saturday, other guys were going out for 152 $100 and undercutting May. So what happened was about 14 years ago I got sick with a reflux condition, which caused me 18 months off laryngitis on. So I wound up not working. For 18 months, I was on the verge of esophagus cancer. I needed a surgery that was not covered by insurance. So a bunch of friends of mine, they told me and benefit in a local catering all. And I was able to get the surgery, which turns out I had reflux for many years. So after the surgery, my voice got stronger, and when I got back into the Elvis, I saw my jobs were not as often. There was a time where I did nine Elvis jobs in a weekend, six in one day. It started at 12 o'clock noon. I didn't come on till 12 o'clock midnight because I did 30 minutes of the wedding. Who's singing telegrams? I. So it just fell into place on when I got when I got sick, all these other guys started to get the work are when I got better. I said, Wow, what am I gonna dio? I can't live on two gigs a month. So I started to do a Blues Brothers tribute. And then when that got little old, I went to work in a restaurant. I thought I was gonna do Elvis. So I brought my suit and I go sit up in his restaurant and I had slags in his shirt on and I walk up to the owner ice. Excuse me, where can I change? And he goes. You look fine. What do you need to change? So I gotta put my Elvis outfit on and he says to me, I don't want you to do Elvis. I said, Excuse me. He said, Listen, he said last month you came here for dinner and you got up and sang Ah Sinatra song I want you to do Sinatra and I walked away and I looked at my wife. I said, he doesn't want Elvis. What doe? I dio what do I do for three hours? And my wife says every freaking song you know e decided the table. I wrote out three cents. I wrote out a dinner music set e wrote out of oldie set and then it disco set. And I said, Okay, here's what we're gonna dio And I picked the songs that I love Thio here. So I figured if I love to hear these songs, maybe the 100 people in the restaurant well like them. So I did the night. The next day I got four phone calls from different restaurants. Who said, Is it true you did Sinatra and Bobby Darin and Barry White and Kate? Yes, I did. Wow, we got our own Elvis. Now that you're doing other stuff, we want to hire you once a month and I said What? So the variety show turned out to...

...be my saving grace in in order to keep my profession going without having to go get a regular job to supplement the income that I was losing. So I started doing these other restaurants, and then I got into the nursing home circuit, which during the day you go sing in a nursing home for an hour and they pay you because years ago I would do nursing homes for free because I didn't realize they had budgets. So I would go to Elvis for for an hour just to do it for these people in nursing homes and hospitals. But then I found out that hospitals and nursing homes have budgets four or five years. I go out 4567 times a week and do these shows in nursing homes and hospitals and senior centers, which was going to be the next phase of my life. Unfortunately, with co vid, I can't go into nursing homes and hospitals. So in March, March 14th was the first day I ever stepped on stage. 1980 March 14th of this year was my last show before Cove in. So I celebrated my 40th anniversary on a Saturday night and Monday I was out of work. Yeah, this is this. This year's devastating. I'm sure this is the Twilight Zone. Yeah, but it gave me a lot of time to reflect on what I wanted to dio. I got into the acting about four years ago, and the first job I got was funny because they flew me to South America to be in a TV show called Kingpin, which was about the life of John Gotti. Yeah, a gangster. So my first job, I got phone to South America. I was in a limo, I was in a five star hotel and, uh, every so after that everything is downhill, But I've done some projects. I got involved in a political play which ones? Broadway reopens. We're gonna dio and I read some books on acting. I've done some classes. So although the Koven put a damper, it gave us time to explore other assets. Right? So hopefully when things reopened fully, I'll have ah lot mawr avenues to do my craft and to earn my living. I saw your monologue that you were doing online, and you surely have. I mean, you're from New York, so you definitely could play some of those roles. And you probably have a you know, a wide variety of talent in that, and as you develop it will increase is well, but you can certainly fit, in my view, which doesn't amount to much, but in those those like a gaudy film or a gangster like you just have and it's not your personality, but you could easily slip into that. I'm sure, right. Well, you know, being a New York Italian, uh, it comes natural. But when I got into the acting, I said to this one guy, I don't act. He said, Jean, you're a Bronx guy. Your entire Bronx guy who makes a living doing Elvis. You're already at, you know, even even for that five minutes. When I start my show, I'm Elvis. The glasses that help After the first five minutes, I become Jean DiNapoli doing a tribute. I don't say or what I recorded. Hound Dog. No, I say when Elvis record on. Well, you know, some people want to be Elvis. I never wanted to be Elvis. I was always happy in my life. I wanted to be an entertainer doing the show. So for the first five minutes, I come out. You know, Look, I look nothing like Elvis sideburns, the black hair and the jumpsuit. But people go, Oh, my God, you look so much like Elvis with all right. So for the first five minutes, there's a shock value and there's Oh, I'm so into it. But then, when I become myself, that's when the entertainment part comes in and I do my 150% to get people into my act. And it's the same thing with the acting. You know, I do get gangster roles. I've gotten some cop roles, some detective roles, which is all well and good. I'm looking for that...

Dr role. I'm looking for that judge roll. I'm looking for that dad role because I'm not a father. I never had Children, and I want to know if I could pull it off because that's where you know what you're worth. If you could do something totally out of your normality so I could see those, I could see all those roles you fitting right into it. Doctors, uniformed judges, gown. I could see those. Well, I thank you. And hopefully there's some directors and my father too. Well, you know, I'm a nurturing person. I love Children. I love people. So hopefully somebody off director sorts or producer or agents seize this where you could say I could fit in that part. But it is a hard sell to sell. Ah, director or casting agent? Yes, I can play. Ah, lawyer When all they seen you do is street guys banks, er and, uh, cops. Captains, you know, figures of authority. It's hard for them to say. I don't know if you could do that. Well, it's almost parallel to your you're entertaining with Elvis that you were doing Elvis. But then you're like, Hey, I could do this other stuff. And people do we owe it was murder. Try to get people to say to see I'm not a one trick pony. You know, I do so many things now. I mean, I could do a cocktail hour, nothing but Sinatra and the monarch and all these blues brothers Elvis, Bobby Darin, Classic Disco Lionel Richie, Billy. And like I said, I'm not a singer, per se. I'm gonna entertainer. So if people looking to get entertained I'm I'm there, man, if you want a singer. There were better singers out there, right? You know, I once got a job doing Elvis for Vanessa Williams. You know that is right. Yeah, beautiful Vanessa Williams. And when I did her daughter's fifth birthday party and it was an Elvis, it was an oldie steam. After the show, I said, Excuse me, Miss Williams, and she just called me Vanessa. The lovely lady. I said, You obviously have unlimited funds. Why did you high in me when you could have hired an Elvis look alike from Las Vegas? Lumen, she says. You know, Jean, I spoke to 10 agencies, and they all said he doesn't look just like Elvis. And he does not the greatest thing in the world, but there's not a better entertainer that Gene DiNapoli. And to me, that was the greatest compliment I could have gotten because there are guys that sing great, but they can't hold your attention. More than three songs. There are guys that look great. But if the initial look, you go OK? Yeah, he looks great, but he can't sing. So she wanted an agitator for an hour, and I was lucky to get that job. And that was a very rewarding experience to me, which led to the variety show and now the acting. Uh, because people say, Yeah, we don't want to sing. We want somebody's gonna entertain our guests for three hours and you're the guy. So you're you're doing it from the heart. Oh, yes. Oh, yes. Everything I do is out of passion and love. Uh, you know, if I hit Lotto tomorrow for untold millions, I would sing every weekend for free. I would still go to the nursing homes and hospitals for free. Unfortunately, we need money to make the world go around. So I need to charge. And I need to get paid for what I dio. But if I had untold funds, I would do it seven days a week for anybody I wanted for free because I love it. And whether I'm singing or acting or comedy, I'm very comedic on stage. People tell me I should do stand up comedy, but I like to sit down. So that's another problem. Uh, so, uh, you know, we're gonna try to do other than we have some projects in the works. Now that is gonna be totally different than singing. Uh, I'm gonna be hosting my own. I do my podcast, which is like it is, which is an interview show. But I also have a restaurant review show and a wide review show coming out where I'm the host and I'll be going around the Tri State and across the country reviewing restaurants as a regular person. You know, they don't want food critics all the time. They want regular average people like myself to review a restaurant and let people know this...

...this and I think it's a great thing. Especially now everybody needs promotion. They need to get the word out. So we start filming in two weeks, Uh, I'm gonna be going to some local restaurants and doing our show on the restaurant, on the management on the cooks. I'm gonna go in the kitchen. I'm gonna flip pizza up in the air. I'm not gonna catch it. It's gonna hit me in my face, and then we're gonna We're gonna cook and we're gonna eat, and then we're gonna shame. And the show is called Shut up and eat with Jean DiNapoli. That's great. So we got that. We got the wine show. We have a comedy show coming out on my ancestry. How my family was in all different scenarios in Italian and American history, like my family hosted the first Thanksgiving dinner with the Indians. And instead of Turkey, we made lasagna and meatballs and sausage. So we're gonna be doing that. It's called the wacky genealogy off genes Annapolis. So we start, I don't write funny. So we're gonna start showing that, uh, in two weeks. So from going from nothing, every day, we're gonna have a full schedule off of work, and hopefully something hits and people like it, and I get famous. Your wife is surely not taking that seat belt off. No, but you know what? Um my wife is is with me. When I do my shows, my wife runs all my music and my sound of my lights. And then when I do the big shows that the casinos, she's always on stage with me as my assistant. And, uh, as soon as I'm done with this show, I walked right over to hug, and I go well, and my wife won't sugarcoat any and great show, but I think he should not leave that song out. Great night. So, you know, my wife is a double edged sword. She gives me compliments, and she also gives me criticism. So what is the most difficult? I mean, sure, you surely got this question before, but what is most difficult about what you do, whether the stuff you're doing are about to dio or the 40 years of entertaining What? What is most difficult or challenging. Uh, the show is not the work. The work is getting the gigs and preparing. You know, when I quote a price to somebody and they go for an hour, it's no, it's not for the hour. It's for 40 years of experience. It's for a $4000 jumpsuit. It's for me dying. I'm gray. I've been great for many years. I got to dye my hair, grow sideburns. So no, you're not paying for the one hour you're paying for three hours off preparation. You're paying for the driving. This setting off the show is free. I'm doing a show for free. But getting the game and selling yourself is the hardest part of this business. It is ongoing, and it never stops, never stops. You know, I'm very thankful that now, with the Internet, we have referrals. So, like I did a show, uh, Sunday and somebody put it on Facebook and I got two jobs by two of their followers seeing it. So social media and my business is great in other forms of life. Social media is a disaster because, you know, everybody became a reporter and a critic, but for a marketing tool. Social media is wonderful. Are So now it's getting a little easier to get the work because people that you don't know are seeing what you dio. And if they like what you dio they call you. Yeah, social media. They can find out about you before maybe going to the restaurant, watching you entertain on. And then they're like, Yeah, this is the person that I want, you know? Yes, they could divination. They could vet you, you know, they could They could investigate You. Look, when I used to get jobs is Elvis, I'd say, Well, what are you looking for? What we're looking for looking like I would say, Listen, that's not me. I'm 5 ft seven. I'm £200. I'm an Italian guy from the Bronx. I don't look like Elvis, but I'm a great entertainer or we're looking for looking like I should go see this guy. This guy is tall and thin, and he's going to give you what you need. Oh, well, we're looking for a singer and potato. That's me. So I knew where to sell myself, and I knew what to say. Listen, it's not worth the aggravation off doing a job when you know you're not great for that job because the repercussions are not good. You know,...

...you could love, uh, Marilyn Monroe iconic. Look, right, But if you're a brunette and your curvy let's same or curvy than Maryland and you show up in somebody's party and you're dressed in dungarees, you're curvy and you have black hair. But you love Marilyn. Are they supposed to pay you? You were last on the stage, right? What you do in your own house is fine, but when you go and you imitate or you tribute somebody, you should have the attributes that made that person iconic. So if I went to do an Elvis show and slacks and a pull over shirt with gray in my hair and no sideburns, well, that person has a right to not pay me because I'm not doing what they want. So Social Media and the Web is a great way toe weed out negativity. In my business, it's interesting to think about being a tribute artist or entertainer that is representing other people, because the expectation is already there. Right when you do shows for people at parties you have tow, look and act and sound as much You can like that person. Now if I do an acting job tomorrow and I need gray in my hair and I know sideburns, but I am an Elvis show tonight. Well, what am I gonna do? I can't dye my hair because I got so I do it Elvis tribute in the restaurant, dressed as me bond. People know James doing his 40 years. He's fun, all right. He doesn't look like it, but he's doing other things, you know, So they could excuse the fact that I put on fake sideburns or I have short hair, you know, because, look, we're not overs president when I'm Marilyn. Wrong. It's an illusion. But when you get a party or a wedding or something private and you're supposed to give that wow factor, you better have the jumpsuit. You better have blonde hair like you better, you know, look like the character you're betraying. What gives you the most satisfaction in your entertaining applause? Repeat work. 14. Right? Listen, there was nothing like getting people toe a ploy. It's one thing when your family applauds, but when you're in a room full of strangers. I play one restaurant that's a tourist attraction. So there's 100 people in the restaurant, maybe 20 them milady. 80 of them are transient people that come and go. And when you get them to tip you or toe book you for a party or to say I'm coming back next month because you're great, that's the ultimate reward. Uh, is when you get a stranger to like what you do, that's that's the most rewarding factor in my life. Jean. What would you like? People as an entertainer toe understand about your work, Whether it's as doing what you do with specific people singing or entertaining about their songs or your scheduling, What would you like them to understand So they know. I mean, you're putting in a lot of hard work. Well, uh, what I'd like to say to parents is that performing is a is a job. So if your child that 56789 10 12 years old, wants me to detainer, don't say to them, why can't you get a real job? Say to them, we're going to put you in this and see how you don't But we'd also like you to get education or a trade because, uh, entertaining might not be as fruitful for many years. So you do need a back back plan. Ah, lot of people think entertaining is not really it's not a real job. Well, so for that, that's what I say to parents for the kids. Well, yeah, toe, live your dream at any age, eyes the most rewarding experience. You know, they say, when you love what you do for work it's never worked of. But those are the choices you have to...

...make in life early. That's why if you put your path in your teams and you put your future laid out, you could live your dream while having another job or career, or learning 20 instruments and becoming a session musician or working musician while you're doing it. There's always pros and cons to everything, but the pros are doing what you love for a living. So that's what I want to tell parents and kids is that I'm understanding, you know, there's no right or wrong now. Just because you love to sing doesn't mean you can sing just because you like that. That doesn't mean So you gotta go for lessons. And if you can't do it, you just can't do it. But at least you could say you tried because you don't wanna be 60 and 70 and 80 years old sitting in front of the TV and saying I should have done that. What would have happened if I did that? You know, May I never played guitar? Maybe I should have learned. I mean, I loved Elvis, but I just never had the attention span. But had I learned to play guitar, I might have been a great guitar player. I might have invented a song. Creators. It just wasn't meant for me. But I think parents, in addition, to tone their Children about education, they need to nurture their talents as well, Knowing how busy you are. How do you stay motivated and productive? What get you going? Keep going. Well, for one. Like I said before, unfortunately, money makes the world go around. So I'd stay active because we all need money to survive. However, I stay active and I do different projects because I want to be famous. Brian, I wanna walk down the street and have somebody say to me, I saw you on TV two weeks ago or I saw you the movie. I love that. People say, Hey, aren't you that guy that does Elvis? Yes, I did it. But I want people to know I have other talents. So I'm 54. I'm going to keep going until the good Lord tells me to stop. And hopefully between that with then I will become famous because that would make me very happy. That's my motivation. Now, like I told you, if I hit Lotto, I don't need to be rich because I'm rich. But I would still like to be famous so I would do jobs for free, and I would doom or acting jobs. And I would produce my own films and TV shows, you know, to keep myself in the business. Well, you're certainly young. 54 is young. Not no matter how you slice it, 54 is young. What is your like being up on stage or even maybe a computer? What is your favorite tool that you use in your entertainment business? So, I mean, it could be I know you have many rings and, like replica rings But what? It's one of the favorite tools that you have that you just couldn't do without, or it's been. It's meant a lot to you. I mean, it could have been your mom's. I'm, uh, broom handle. I'm not sure, but what is the tool that you use that it's just It's part of the work that you do each day. Well, when I do Elvis, of course, I like to where? The jewelry that Elvis was so famous when the office. But I don't think anything I do has a physical tool that I need. Uh, you know, I go out and do my regular show, and sometimes I wear a necklace. Sometimes I don't. Sometimes I wear a ring. Sometimes I don't, uh, but the I can't. I mean, a vote voices a tool. So I'm singing or acting. I need my voice. Uh, but I don't think there's anything, uh, that I need every show to get that show over to pull it off. I don't think I'm attached toe anything that much that I say to myself. Oh, my God. I forgot it at home. I got to go back. Know if I'm doing a singing job. I have my music doing, not the job. I have my script, but other than that, there's my There's no physical to except my heart. If my heart is not in a project or a gate, I don't think I'll do it just because it pays, Uh,...

...which leads me to. I'm not a real actor because I don't do certain projects because they work on my mind more than an actor. Not that goes into a role. He becomes that role. There was some scenarios that I just can't wrap my head around and I go, No, that's not for me. And, you know, um, I'm gonna back off. But other than that, I try toe, just make my heart my only tool for certain gigs for certain jobs. It's a good answer, so no, it's not. I mean, it's one of the best answers I've heard your heart. Yeah, then you're able to use other tools because your heart's going. Yeah, you know, I used to do is I did a song once in front of Elvis's background singers, and it's a song about a guy who's getting a divorce. But he stays with his wife because he has Children. So this girl, her name was murder. She walked up to me and said, Wow, you did that song so passionately. How many Children do you have? I said, I don't have any Children because then how could you do that song with such feelings? I said, I'm also not from the hills of Virginia, but I could sing a country song. So when you have that passion in you, you could sing a song that is not in your life But you could relate because you could only imagine what that person feels if they had to leave their Children. Mm. So what you do is you say Okay? I had a had a puppy and when I had to leave the house, I felt so sad. We'll magnify that by 1000 if you had to leave your Children and you try to channel feelings are to put songs over toe put rolls over to put acting jobs over. Um, that's the That's the essence off being a good performer, no matter what it ISS is putting over a song or a role when you have no relevancy to add to it. You mentioned Children thinking of Children getting in. Maybe there in the attic, practicing their songs or even people on this roller coaster where maybe even cove it. What is? You mentioned something a moment ago, but a top tip for people getting into work or even switching their careers driving on a downturn. Yeah, First of all, make sure it's something you could Dio are. Make sure it's something you study on. Uh, make sure it's something you practice on, and then everything else will come naturally. Like I said, people love to sing, but that doesn't mean they can say, Put a goal for yourself and say And it's funny because I never put a goal. I'm gonna do this for six weeks, eight weeks, nine months, two years. If I don't reach that goal, I'm gonna revert back to what I know to support myself. So whether it's getting an education, learning a trade, learning a different career, give yourself goal and or a time limit because sometimes you just can't grasp and you can't learn at certain parts of your life and you don't want toe keep throwing stuff in a wall and nothing sticks. So you know just have an open mind. I love to dance, but I have no rhythm. So do it. Try it and no, if you can or cannot and then accept the truth. I think your goal from 14 until now has been amazing. Whether you feel that your where you want to be, I mean, you've kept at it, and that's pretty amazing, regardless, for if you put that in any profession from someone to say at 14 I wanted to do this thing and then 40 years later you're still doing that thing. That's amazing in and of itself. Thank you, and I appreciate, I agree. But you must have a strong support system. Whether it's family, friends, spouses, partners are without a strong support system. I don't know many performers that were on Island and still were able to achieve success. They needed help the loving, the nurturing, off their family and friends and partners and spouses. I've been blessed. I've been very blessed with a wonderful family,...

...fabulous friends, Ah, fan base that has given up their time and their love and their money, because when I perform, they got to spend money in order for the places to make money in order to pay me. Uh, so I've been very, very lucky, Brian. Uh, but like I said, if I hit Lotto, I'm gonna continue doing it. And everybody that came to see me in the past 40 years I'm paying for your dinners. That's I'm paying from now on. Speaking of entertainment, how do you keep that work Life balance. So separating yourself from work? How do you find enjoyment or your rest? What is that you do thio to balance that out? I mean, some people continue to work when the resting. But how do you do it? Well, like I said before, I don't rest because I'm constantly trying to get gigs and acting and, you know, it is a social media. It is a full time job getting the word out so where you could achieve success. Uh, I love listening to music. I love watching documentaries on TV, so I'll record five or six and then I'll binge watch for a day. But my phone, my email I'm always on it. I'm always trying to get the next egg. I'm learning a new song once a week or, you know, this is my love, So I don't consider what I don't do it relaxing, uh, to me, our relax When the time is there, uh, nothing comes to you know, no one's gonna knock at your door and say, Hey, I own two restaurant. No, you got to go out and get it. You've got to create the work. You gotta, you know, push and push and push. Which is why no grass ever grow into my feet. When the work was slow, I created it. So I was always out there doing gigs and doing shows, and maybe not a lot, but they were They were, uh, specialized to where I was in the public eye. Gene, I have several more questions I'd like to ask, but I appreciate your time, and I don't want to take much time, So maybe maybe to close it out. You You go as long as you want, man. You're You're all right. You're I don't I don't wanna do milk it for all it's worth, but I want it because I think a lot of all the stuff you're saying is good. So I don't wanna miss anything, but I don't want to keep you from doing anything. I'm gonna ask my needs to bring me down some more water. E got no problem. Well, then what is it you wish you would have known at 13 that you could tell someone now? I mean, you've touched on a few of these, as you said, Like as you mentioned. But specifically, what is one thing that you wish you would have known? And maybe another question I have is is for education of how important education is in something that you wish you would have known in your teens. Well, when you say education, we could talk about schooling, and we could talk about learning you're learning is singing or anything like that. So I wish I picked up a guitar and had the attention span. I wish I learned three or four instruments because then when times were lean, I could have went out and been a piano player for somebody else. But, you know, I learned early in life to save. Uh, this is my beautiful. Yeah, Beautiful niece. Gina. Thank you, schoolteacher. Now, two weeks ago. Job. Hey, congratulations. Hey. For teachers. Yes. Yeah, for teachers. Essential job are education. No, matter what form it is. Whether you school or trade or performing is a necessity, because it will always keep you going. And had I learned music at an early age there I listened. Brian, there were lean times. Trust me. Let's start call. My life was not all rainbows and cookies. There were times where I went without a gig for weeks and weeks on. I went and got regular jobs. Toe survive. That's I always had jobs and businesses. Uh, but I wish I would have learned instruments to stay on that path. Uh, I think it's very important. Like I said before, with parents teaching their kids. Thank you Are to do what they love, but tohave Ah, plan. Ah, fallback. Ah, fall back. Should have been the word before because as we saw it in this world right now, you could be ah, banker. And...

...now you're out of work. You could be Ah, mechanic. Now you're out of work. You could be a restaurant worker. Now you gotta work. So if you had a second knowledge, we're third knowledge. You could maybe fall back on that to get you through these past, uh, six months We're a guy like may I sat back and worried since March. What am I gonna dio? Where's where's the next chapter of my life? Uh, I thought I was gonna sing in nursing homes and hospitals during the week for the rest of my life and on weekends do my gigs and restaurants and casinos and get a little acting jobs. Or now I'm faced with a reality where I might never go back into those nursing homes or hospitals because of Cove in. So what do I have to dio all? I got to get more acting jobs or I have to, uh, learn something else to keep myself going. War move forward with what I do know is gonna be there and go 10 fingers the go get it. Yeah, Go get it, Go get it. I mean, it's just it's a crazy world right now, but I think it's also yeah, I think, this time off Pandemic. I think people woke up when there are uncertain Koreas and they said, Wow, and I know many people that became real estate agents and truck drivers and other careers which were totally opposite of what they wanted to do because they said once this goes open, want to get to a career that's essential and that I know cannot be hindered, such as real estate. Such Aziz banking, such as troubling these air jobs that will always be there health care, are my field. It's uncertain. Entertainment is. It's It's tricky. It's tricky. Very tricky. Uh, hopefully, like I said, I hit Lotto. Not a lot. 200 million. I'll be fine. I'll be happy. Uh, but whatever it is, it is. Whatever cards I am dealt, I'm going to go forward. Uh, and as long as my wife are, some supports me in my decisions because that's what you want. You want a happy home life because you don't want to do anything to upset the people you live with, because then it's just not a happy life. If you can't agree on things, well, if we can generalize that I found or I'm finding with Cove it, there's two mind sets of people people that take the victim of, you know all this is happening to me. Life is over, and and I understand there's probably more circumstances in their life that leads to that way. of thinking. But then there's the other people who say I'm going to take advantage of this situation. I'm gonna learn something else. I'm going to do something different and I'm going to come out of 2020 better than I was going into it. And I think by you saying these things that you have coming up the plans, you have your of the ladder. I am of the ladder. Uh, there's a third group, Brian. There's a third group of people that said, I'm going to sit and wallow in my house. I'm gonna live off the unemployment I get there. Is that May I? I was lucky to get minute unemployment. I want to go back to work. I made a very good living at what I did. My taxes were paid, uh, which is why I was able to collect. But I don't want to sit home and collect. I want to go back to work. I want I want to earn my keep. It's what makes me happy. As I said before, if I hit Lotto and I was in, I would still do it for free. I have never been so depressed. Uh, in a lot of years. Like I said, I was depressed of my father passed away, but that was part of life. Are this pandemic in this? Clothing was not written in our lives. So this took us all by surprise. And, uh, death is a part of life you can love. Your parents love it, but we are all gonna pass on at one time or another. So you have to deal with that as best as you can. But you should prepare for it. But this we were totally unprepared. I never thought the economy would get shut down off course. I'm in New York. I'm only...

...six miles from the epicenter of New Rochelle, where this all started in New York on So we were hit, blindsided with no warning. Yeah, where I am in Dagou. It was the first major city kind of hit outside of China. And it's Yeah, it's still having its effects. Azaz a teacher. I don't have I'm not going to school. Wow, we're not We're doing things online. Azaz. You mentioned about your father? My mom passed away this February. Just his covert was hitting not from covert but cancer. And she she loved Neil Diamond. That was that was her favorite. I mean, if I mean now I'm gonna think. But if I would have met you than Thio introduce you to my mom like I could just imagine the night I remember the nights that she would just we had an old record player that we'd have, and she would just crank it up and enjoy the night. And it was just a wonderful thing. So I've done this out of kind of memory to my mom and not to boast myself. But just to say that, you know, when things happen, we have a choice. We can wallow in them or we could do something different. And I think a test to admit to you is that you're working and you're looking forward and, yeah, maybe you could get some money if you want and take it. But you're looking toe work, and that's that's what this is about. And that's what I appreciate about 100%. Like Like I said, of course, we all wish we had lotto, and but I would still do what I did for free, you know, times were simpler back in the Ah, early days of humanity because if I was ah singer and you had a beef you had account from, you'd say to me, Jean, come to my house and sing for the night and I'm gonna give you £40 of meat was the barter system and everybody was harmonious. And, you know, you had what you had. I had what I had. But today, money, um, you know, it's an old saying, money is the root of all evil. And there is some legitimacy in that because you do need to make a ZMA much as you can in the time you're allotted in, orderto live the expectancy off. What's going to be, You know that that is is saying, but it's from where I think it originates. It says it's the love of money. Love of money. Yes, the love of money is the root of evil, and that is the problem. So buying the things and doing this stuff is not the major problem. But when it becomes your sole drive in life and it dominates, you love of it, that making an idol out of it is when it becomes the major. You know, I have a famous saying. There are three kinds of state. There's chuck, sirloin and porterhouse. If you have a great life in a great education and a great job, you're gonna afford the porterhouse. You're still going to get steak. If you have a low paying job, it won't be the best grade. Same goes for clothing and cars and houses and life in general. So what you want out of life is the career and schooling. You need to make a choice early on, and you know that that could shut you up for the next 60 years of your life. It gives you that ability toe. Have a choice, right? Right. Everybody could afford steak, whether it's hamburger meat. What what you want out of life is what you put into it, whether it's education or work wise, Uh, you do the due diligence. You do the work and the rewards will come. And Jean DiNapoli I know you said, In terms of entertainment, you have no regrets. But I'm wondering what is a mistake or one of the biggest mistakes you've had that you've learned from? You don't have to die. Apology. The mistake's, um, I had one interesting one the other day, and then I someone informed me of theirs, and it reminded me of my own, but something that it was a mistake in life. But it was something you learned from because there's people, as you said, to dwell on things. So they're just living in the past of that mistake or something that happened to them. Or however, life has kind of thrown them a curve ball. What is something that you have learned from which was a mistake of your own? Well, uh,...

I don't learn from my mistakes, unfortunately, reminded that we did it before, but I'm very fortunate that most of my mistakes well, monetarily, which you could always make money in the future. Uh, like my wife said, We'll always make more money. I made a mistake with a house. I should have never done construction on it. I wanted them losing the house and collapsed on me. The bank didn't give me alone. I needed so I want them losing hundreds of thousands of dollars. I was very depressed, my wife said. It's only money will make more eso in terms off, so your your heart, your your hardest critic. Then if your wife is sitting in the corner saying It's all right, dear, we could make more money. Your your hardest critic, I My heart is critical, and I feel for those around me who suffered because of my bad decisions. I don't feel for myself because I made that decision. No. Like I said, money could always be made. I've made some decisions where my heart has gotten broken. Not I'm not talking about love. I'm talking about trusting in human beings where I should have listened to other people or I should have learned from my past experiences. And I didn't because I give people the benefit of the doubt. And I say, How could they do this to me? Or How could they do this to me again? So you know, it's a sad world when you get taken advantage of it didn't even share the world when you allow it to happen again by the same group of people. Uh, and I made that mistake, but I've learned maybe late in life, but I've learned so. As I said at the top of this interview, there's no such thing as a bad experience if you learn from it. So that's what I've learned. And even if if someone's taking advantage of us, it's still you wanna, you know, like a T ball or just toss it up to them in the hope that they'll, you know, treat you right Or do you good? Like That's the hope. Even if you knew they did something bad just okay. I want to trust you because you're looking for the good in them you're looking for, You know, whether it's an opportunity, you hope that it works out, Unfortunately, doesn't always work that it doesn't always work out. And, you know, there have been times in my life where I've owed people money and, you know, I haven't seen. And then out of the clear blue, I go to them and I give them money. They don't. I haven't heard from you in three months. I thought you forgot about me. It's not forgot about you. I just make a certain amount I had to live and you know, So you gotta keep your self respect. Yes, well on. And you do what you can. But self respect of a person is more than self respect. of paying back. You want to find the good in people because you want people to find the good in you. We all make mistakes. Uh, that doesn't mean we're gonna make it tomorrow. Maybe we learned maybe that next day is the day that person is going to do you right. But, you know, unfortunately, nine times out of 10 it reverts back to the originality of the problem. Jean near closing. Is there anything else that you would, especially for my listeners of work people, especially now going through a whole slew of problems with their work? Or some people are lucky that they skin right through and they're not even scathed. But maybe they don't enjoy their work. They, you know, they're disgruntled about their work where people getting into work. Do you have any advice or some words of encouragement for where people are now and looking forward in their work? Okay, so my answer is twofold. I'm gonna give you my answer, arises as a non parent and then his apparent, which I am not the desire. I perceive it as a non parent. I feel if I was not happy and whatever job I had I would quit and going toe what I love. And that would make me happy. As a parent, I believe when you when you are not happy in your work, you should look at those who you are raising. And that might give you the strength to continue what you're doing. Even if you're not happy to know that you're making somebody else had providing for them provided right? You...

...know, you cannot feed a family of six on a minimum wage job. So if you feel you're gonna have four kids and a spouse, well, then you better get a good job or a trade and make us much you can. But if you're going to be a single person and this menial paying job not menial job, no job. You know what, Bryant? I get in trouble all the time because of my big mouth. So I have to say there is no menial job. You have a big mouth, you're you're you're paying jobs. So if you're gonna go into a low paying job with no chance for financial growth, choose your path wisely so you don't become ah person behind the eight ball. You don't become indebted to credit card family that choose your pet wisely. And then when you go to sleep at night, you could rest your head on the pillow both eyes closed and say, I'm doing my best and I'm happy and that's the key. Toe life is to be happy. I was listening to a gentleman, and, uh, he was giving advice on marriage. And he's, you know, he's like, Well, people always come up to him asking, You know, who should I marry? Because, well, their you know their standards, depending on your faith and stuff. But there's standards it. And if there, if you find people are within the standards of who you want to marry, you're going to probably have a bunch of people to pick from. Then just pick, so the same goes with a job. So if you have some skills and talents and things that you're able to do based on what you're saying with parents who guided you, Thio just have a little bit more education rather than that one track mind. Then you have this wider track to pick from, and then just pick like a wife or your husband. You can pick who it is that you want based on the guidelines that you have set before you saying with the job you have those skills. Then you have that a little bit freer room, as we said earlier to choose, you know, uh, like I said before, I always get into trouble with my mouth because I feel I say I say what's on my mind? And I say, What's in my heart? Don't become a garbage man. If you don't like to smell the garbage, don't become a doctor. If you don't like the sight of blood, don't become a mechanic if you don't like the feel of voice, Right, Uh, there are people out there to choose professions because they're either forced into it or they want to do the city job for 20 years and sit on their ass. Well, that's fine. But if you're going to do something you don't like, don't complain. Because there are literally millions of jobs for every walk of life in every economic standing. Mhm. Now are some jobs hearted Thio yet? Yes, So go to school. We'll go take a trade and do your job and become the best that you can in that field. But don't complain. Because when you come home for a job and you complain, you're bringing everybody else in your life down and they you don't have to say it, they can see it. They could feel it. They could send cloud, right? And that goes back to what we spoke about. When you're happy, you never work a day in your life. And all I could say is if your father was ah, doctor and you become a doctor because your mother or father you hate blood. Shame on you if you become a garbage person because you must. And you don't like this fellow garbage. Shame on you. Yeah, stop. Just don't complain. That's you know, that's my philosophy. I'm not a philosopher. Uh, you know, that's good, though. I like it, you know? It's just my little take on life are just be happy And what you dio you know you do you my newest saying for the past couple of years, You do you You know I'll do. May you do you And hopefully we get together. We have fun, but I don't want to hear your woes. You don't wanna hear my woes, you know Well, Jean Denapoli, you are doing you. How could I mean you're How can we say it's not the business? Busiest man answers the most consistent man in show business. Wow, Thank you very much. Thank you. How can they reach you with...

...your consistency and you're busy work while I'm all over social media, Facebook and Instagram and my website, which is jean dinapoli dot com All my shows air on there or my acting. I'm also ordain minister now, so I could marry people either as Jean or is Elvis. I I got to the Elvis outfit. Uh, so all my career is on the web social media Instagram, Gina Napoli, Facebook. Jean DiNapoli. Uh, and I love it. I love if people see this, if they want to talk to me, send me a message. Hey, you know, I'm an open book. Uh, I'd love to talk to people of all walks of life, you know? Listen, I'm not going to sugarcoat it and tell you I was this way. All my life, I've matured. I've grown as a person. Well, like I said, I never hurt anybody. It was my own feelings in life that hurt myself. There were situations where I would avoid because it made me uncomfortable. But yet the only person I made uncomfortable with myself So I've definitely matured as a person, definitely over the past 20 years, since I'm married. Um, so I like to talk to everybody. So if anybody would like to reach out to me and talk about a project or if I could help anybody get through whatever they're feeling with anything I said tonight, I'd be more than happy to speak to somebody. And just like I'm not a psychiatrist, I'm not a psychologist. I'm an everyday guy who's lived life ups and downs. So if my little advice could help, well, then it was worth being on this show not only to meet you, but to give somebody a little inspiration. I think everyone should know a gene DiNapoli. Sir, I have one final question. Sure, why do you work? Self respect, self worth and self perseverance? Because this is what gives us purpose, whether it's building a house, singing, being a doctor, being a parent, that's work. At the end of the day, when you do something positive, whether It's raising a child, teaching a child, building a house. Whatever it is, it gives you a sense of purpose. And I think that's what makes the world a happier place. Have a sense of purpose. It's It's a great message of purpose. A lot of people think they don't have a purpose. Everybody has a purpose. You know, I had a friend of mine who just recently lost his life, and he was he had a hit song. Andi used to come to my house and say, Gene, how could you sustain or career without having a hit record? What's your advice? And I said, Why would you ask me? Me and my advice? You had a hit song and you know what he said To me, everybody's advice is worth something. Everybody's job, whether it's a paying job or being a parent and doing it, every job is essential to somebody. Jean DiNapoli. You've been a great guest. You are a wise man and you have a good purpose as well. And I do hope that one day you'll be as famous as you want to be. Thank you. And this was this was really a pleasure because I got to speak about life's issues and not just career e. I want to thank you, Brian. Uh, maybe one day down the line you would do me the honor of being a guest on my podcast. Absolutely. On Monday nights. Guys, guys say that. Yeah, no, Plug it plug. Yeah, that's what I meant. When how they reach you, plug whatever you want. Yeah. Gene. An athlete dot com Monday nights on Facebook and YouTube reminiscing with Jean DiNapoli. We have guests from all sorts of entertainment, acting, singing, movies, sports figures. We got a lot of great guests coming up, so check us out on Facebook every Monday night. Seven o'clock Eastern Standard Time Jeans, an athlete dot com. Send me an email. Look here from everybody. Thank you, sir. Not everyone. And hopefully one day I get to South Korea...

...or you get to the Bronx, New York, and we commit each other's families and have a dinner together. My dear wife just said today I said, I'm gonna interview Jean DiNapoli from New York. Oh, I want to go to New York. Well, you must let me have the honor of taking your wife and your two kids out for the best New York pizza. Well, I mean, sign me up, I'm sure. Jean DiNapoli, Everyone. Thank you very much, sir. Thank you. Stay well and God bless. Stay safe for everybody. Thank you for listening to this episode of why we work with Brian V. Be sure to subscribe, Follow and share with others so they too can be encouraged in their work. I hope that you have yourself a productive, joyful day in your work.

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